#Textiety: Is texting culture giving us anxiety?

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Photo by Eirik Solheim on Unsplash

Although I didn’t feel I was entirely alone in suffering from texting anxiety, I didn’t think the problem was relevant enough to grant clinical terms, such as textiety and textaphrenia.

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Text messaging is an essential part of communication that is a quick and convenient method to stay connected with our friends, family, and acquaintances.

Despite being a useful mode of communication, the expectation to be reachable and responsive 24/7, literally, can be very stressful and overwhelming to some. Textiety refers to the anxious feeling one gets from not receiving or sending text messages.

Mental health professionals are starting to see anxiety around texting show up in their practice, and it is now part of a new area of research and treatment related to mobile devices and online communication.

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10 radical self-care ideas

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“I just be eatin’, poopin’, chillin’, and cuddlin’ with the humans.” – Bach on his radical self-care routine

There is certainly no shortage of self-care ideas to browse through on the World Wide Web, advising us to meditate, walk-in nature, or get a massage, body scrub, facial or book yourself into a spa for a day or weekend.

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I’m very indulgent when it comes to self-care. I, too, love spending $7 on Starbucks latte to treat myself, although I cannot get into meditation to save my life.

As I admitted in a previous post, 4 radical digital detox ideas, I am obsessed with radical ideas and prefer the unconventional approach when it comes to practicing self-care.

Below are 10 radical self-care ideas I practice and find to be the most useful, in no particular order of importance.


1. Make a list of personal policies to live by.

Moving forward, one of my personal policies for this year is I will only tip based on service, and not just to avoid being stereotyped.

It is extremely demeaning to tip after receiving inferior service just to avoid contributing to the stereotype.

While on the topic, avoiding certain establishments where I feel un-welcomed at is also part of the list.

WATCH: How to set Personal Policies for a Better 2019

2. Do not do things that leave you feeling bitter.

For instance, don’t hang around people that leave you feeling bitter, whether it’s because they drain you of your energy, or it’s because you envy them.

Ask yourself, do I feel energized and motivated, or exhausted and bitter, after spending time with this person?  

3. Quit your job if it’s draining you.

 NO ONE ever said, ‘I wish I stayed at that job that was making me extremely miserable.

Like, ever.

4. Give a damn about giving a damn.

The world is full of cynical, lazy assholes.

It’s cowardly.

Instead, stand for something. Believe in something.

Aim at something, even if badly.

5. Show yourself some tough love.

Self-love is important and all, but what about tough-self-love? My favourite saying is, ‘But, did you die though?’ 

6. Quit the news altogether.

Right after the election, Erik Hagerman decided he’d take a break from reading about the hoopla of politics. Donald Trump’s victory shook him. Badly. And so Mr. Hagerman developed his own eccentric experiment, one that was part silent protest, part coping mechanism, part extreme self-care plan.

I’m almost forgetting what Trump is.

7. Accept that life is suffering.

Then, do awesome things that make the suffering worth it.

8. Give in.

Sometimes, the only thing left to do it to give in to the feeling(s). Take a day, a week, or a month off. Contemplate life. Have multiple existential crises. Cry hysterically. Then, laugh hysterically ’cause life is so bizarre.

Start over.

9. “Invent your life over if it doesn’t feel juicy.”

Be radically innovative.

10. Be more like Bach

Pictured above.

For more radical self-care ideas, read: 20 ways I keep myself mentally healthy