The things you do every day grind on you

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Earlier this week, my partner shared with me a post he found online that really spoke volumes to both of us. A part that stood out to me the most was the things you do every day grind on you.

Here’s a summary of the post:

When you get home to your spouse and kids, greet them with a big smile. It doesn’t matter what kind of day you’ve had, how bad traffic was or that your boss yelled at you for something that was completely out of your control. Smile at them like you are beyond excited to see them. Every. Single. Day.

Why? Because you come home every day. If you can get on with your daily routine with a positive attitude, it will make your life extraordinary.

Life is made up of what we do every day, not what happens on special days. As such, it is crucial to make our every day as special as possible.

The author Annie Dillard put it eloquently, 

how we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.


There is no shortage of things to be upset about in life.

The things you do every day grind on you.

While it is healthy to vent about our frustration with life, it is entirely against our best interest to wallow the unpleasantness of it. It is in our best interest, to fix our attitude towards the mundane and unpleasant tasks of everyday living.

Below are some ideas to consider to make everyday tasks and routines special.

Commute

Commuting is a fact of life for many, whether it is by car, public transportation, biking, or even walking.

Unfortunately, there are many factors that make commuting frustrating and stressful; horrible traffic, construction, bad drivers, late buses, lack of bike lanes, and bad weather, to name a few.

Still, we have to commute almost daily, and it’d serve us best if we find ways to make it less draining — read books, listen to podcasts and audiobooks, make calls to your favourite people, realize that other people on the road are not there just to make your day hell that they got places to be just like you and feel sympathy towards them.

Work

Work is another fact of life that can be demanding, stressful and draining.

The reasons to find work miserable and unbearable can be endless, and that can affect our mental wellbeing in significant ways. Still, we spend upwards of 40 hours or more a week working.

A change in attitude towards your job can really help you overcome the negative aspects of work. Remind yourself frequently that your job is just that, a job.

Leave work at work. I’ve been going for a 10-minute walk right after work as a way to distress and let go of work-related thoughts and emotions.

When you have idle time, try productive and fun activities to pass the time; take a course online, read books, do Suduko puzzles, write/doodle ideas, plans, goals, dreams, read articles on 80000hours.org.

Communication

The ability to communicate well with people is an important skill to have.

Bad communication can negatively impact our relationships, both personal and professional. When we become better communicators, we strengthen our relationships.

The best method I have found to improve communication skills is to improve my listening skills.

If you pay attention to what people say and really listen, you can respond effectively. Better communication leads to pleasant conversations and better connections.

Shower

Every shower can be upgraded from an everyday monotonous task to the most enjoyable experience with one simple add-on: music.

You know the saying dance like no one is watching? Well, you can be a triple-threat act in the shower: Sing, dance and perform like the bathtub is your stage, and the bottles of shampoos and conditioners are your audience. No one is watching.

I also enjoy listening to my favorite podcasts in the shower. Try it, you may really enjoy it. We have to shower every day, so we might as well make the most out of it.


No matter what your day-to-day looks like, we all have to perform mundane everyday tasks, from the time we wake up until we go to sleep at night. It is better to change our attitude to make the in-between and the mundane pleasant.

Our days make our lives.

When we make the every day extraordinary, we make our lives extraordinary as a result.

Until next time… 🙂